The reaction to the idea of a prenuptial agreement can range from a frown to a broken engagement. No surprise there. The typical secular prenuptial agreement is offensive and little more than a dating arrangement.
Typical Secular Agreement
I promise to stay married until you don’t make me happy anymore, and then I’ll take the stuff that I came with and go home.
So you start your marriage by saying, “This is mine and I’m keeping it separate from you. Don’t you touch it. It’s mine.” Some even say, “What I earn during the marriage is mine.”
That sounds biblical, doesn’t it? How does this jive with the mandate for the two to become one as described in Genesis 2:24? It doesn’t.
In a word, it is self-centered.
Why Have a Prenuptial Agreement at all?
Whether you write it or not, if you are engaged, you already have a prenup. Prenuptial means before marriage and agreement means a meeting of the minds. So if you have agreed to get married, you have a prenup. You may have agreed to a great deal of other things by the time you get married. And then, finally, when you stand at the altar, you will make even more agreements. If you use common Christian wedding vows, you verbal prenuptial agreement will go something like this:
I, Patricia, do take you, Patrick, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to live together in the Holy Estate of Matrimony; to love, honor, respect, trust, cherish, encourage, and support you according to God’s Holy ordinance forsaking all others and keeping myself only unto you, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, in joy and in sorrow, in failure and in triumph, from this day forward until death do us part.
Even further, we often say when we are exchanging rings,
With this ring, I thee wed, and with all my worldly goods, I thee endow.
Wow, that’s a far sight from the secular prenup that seeks to withhold.
In a word, the Christian wedding vows are selfless.
What are you are promising at the altar? Will you put that in writing?
Jesus Is Our Model
Jesus is called the Bridegroom for great reason. He proposes for us to marry Him. He is building a mansion for us and will take us there at the great marriage feast. He will give us eternal life with Him. He gave 100% of Himself on the cross, not withholding anything, but giving it all “while we were yet sinners” (Romans 5:8), not because we deserved it or because we made Him happy. And God is so sure of His commitment, He wrote His prenuptial agreement to us in the form of the Bible, the greatest Christian prenup of all times.