What makes a prenup “Christian?”

Modern American (secular) prenups commonly protect a person with assets from someone without. They are usually self-centered, focusing on how to protect the party with more to lose. Even though couples may promise to love one another until death parts them—with virtually no conditions—there are usually unspoken conditions that underlie those promises, like: so long […]

History of Prenups and Marriage Contracts

Marrying with a prenup is not a modern phenomenon. Originally, prenups were used to convey women and property. In fact, women were considered a form of property. Parents were responsible for their daughters until they were married. Vestiges of this are still evident in wedding ceremonies when the pastor asks, “Who gives this woman to […]

Is Love Blind?

* * * * * After a lengthy quarrel, a wife said to her husband, “You know, I was a fool when I married you.” The husband replied: “Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn’t notice it.” * * * * *  Scientists from the University College London have discovered that that feelings […]

Do your really mean “for better or worse?”

The joke goes… There are three rings involved in every marriage:  first the engagement ring, then the wedding ring, and finally the suffering. Sadly, only a small percentage of married report being “happily” married. I’m happily married now, but I couldn’t say that with my first marriage. I wasn’t a Christian then, and I certainly […]

What Does the Bible Say about Prenuptial Agreements?

The only prenuptial agreement mentioned in the Bible is God’s prenuptial agreement with us… His covenant. In the Bible, we are God’s bride, and He invites us to marry Him. If we accept His offer of marriage, He permanently seals our marriage to Him with the Holy Spirit. He is so sure of His promises, […]

Ready to Plan Your Marriage?

What are you going to spend on your wedding? Hundreds of hours? Forbes did a survey of engaged women asking how much time they spent per week planning their wedding. 19% said 10 hours per week. 10% said 15 hours per week. 9% said 8 hours per week. If the average wedding is planned for […]

Is Christian Prenuptial Agreement an Oxymoron?

I’ve just returned from the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writing Conference, where I received a lot of questions about my book… especially this one. Let’s break it down… Christian – One who follows Jesus Messiah Prenuptial – Before marriage Agreement – Becoming of one mind Since God tells us in Genesis that we become one […]

When Will You Have Time To Figure Out Your Finances?

Unfortunately, most couples don’t discover how bad their financial situation is until they are going through divorce.  The State of Florida requires you to do a financial affidavit, a form designed to disclose how much you earn, spend, have and owe. Surprise! “That can’t be right! It shows that we don’t have enough income to pay our bills.” Virtually […]

What?! No alimony?

What if alimony didn’t exist? The day is coming when alimony will be a thing of the past. The handwriting is on the wall. At a national marriage conference earlier this year, we watched a movie called “Divorce Corp.” While it was wrongfully extreme, it had certain elements of truth which caused me to reconsider […]

Would You Put That in Writing?

What changes when you put things in writing? Because I work in the divorce arena, many of my friends are divorce attorneys. Of course, when Patrick and I married they all admonished me to have a prenuptial agreement. “No! Christians don’t have prenups, ” was my answer. But that wasn’t true. We do have prenups, […]